Romantic Things to Do in Carmel, California

Mention Carmel to someone who’s been there and they’re likely to sigh dreamily and say, “Ohhh, I looove Carmel.”  I couldn’t really understand the appeal…until I went there myself. There’s not a whole bunch of stuff to do in this Central California coastal town. But that’s the point. Carmel is about connection with nature and community. And, as I discovered, it’s an ideal place to reconnect with someone you love during a couple’s retreat. Read on to discover seven romantic things to do in Carmel, California.

Cottage Sweets candy shop in the darling Carmel-by-the-Sea
Cottage of Sweets candy shop in the darling Carmel-by-the-Sea (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

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1. Shop and stroll Carmel-by-the-Sea.

Carmel-by-the-Sea is a one-square-mile portion of the larger area of Carmel. It’s a sweet little village within the city. Your revved up, go-go-go speed will slow down to a leisurely stroll here. Carmel-by-the-Sea’s charm is closely guarded by residents who want to preserve its charming small town vibe. There are no neon signs and very few hotels or chain restaurants.

You won’t even find any addresses here. Nope, Carmel-by-the-Sea prefers to keep FedEx carriers guessing rather than mar the town’s charming aesthetics with anything so ugly as street numbers. There are no mailboxes either. Instead, residents walk into town to gather up their letters and deliveries from the post office so they can actually interact with their neighbors.

European architecture, elaborate window displays, and blooming plants make wandering through Carmel-by-the-Sea pleasant, even for non-shoppers, like my husband. Shops and galleries focus on art, upscale fashions, and quirky finds.

Sweets for sale from Café Carmel Coffee House
Sweets for sale from Café Carmel Coffee House (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

2. Stop for sweets with your sweetie.

Take a break from your retail endeavors with a respite in a local park. Be sure to get something yummy to munch first from the Café Carmel Coffee House. My husband and I invested quite a bit of time inspecting ALL of the town’s dessert offerings before settling on this bakery for our afternoon treat. My chocolate eclair was the best I’ve ever tasted. (And that says a lot coming from a sweet tooth like me!)

Couple tasting Champagne on the Carmel Wine Walk
Toasting our wedding anniversary on the Carmel Wine Walk (Photo credit: Travel Mamas)

3. Toast your love on the Carmel Wine Walk.

Purchase a Carmel Wine Walk pass to experience wine flights at nine tasting rooms throughout Carmel-by-the-Sea. This self-guided walking tour saves wine connoisseurs money, especially if they hit every stop. Even if you can’t make it to every wine tasting room, the passports are transferable.

The Carmel Mission
Mission San Carlos Borroméo del Río Carmelo (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

4. Appreciate the beauty of the Carmel Mission.

A short drive away from the center of Carmel-by-the-Sea lies Mission San Carlos Borroméo del Río Carmelo, better known as the Carmel Mission. One of 21 California missions, this is a peaceful retreat at which to stop and smell the flowers and learn a bit of state history. An active parish and school, my husband and I visited the Carmel Mission on a Sunday and we were treated to bells ringing, ringing, ringing to call church-goers to worship.

Hundreds of birds on a boulder at Point Lobos State ReserveHundreds of birds on a boulder at Point Lobos State Reserve in California
Hundreds of birds on a boulder at Point Lobos State Reserve (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

5. Hike Point Lobos State Reserve.

About 13 minutes from Carmel-by-the-Sea lies Point Lobos State Reserve. If wandering through the quaint downtown didn’t mellow you out, Point Lobos should do the trick. This reserve smells of things growing and dying and sounds of waves crashing, birds singing, and seals and sea lions barking. It feels alive and reminds you that you are alive.

Orange moss growing on Point Lobos Reserve trees
Orange moss growing on Point Lobos Reserve trees (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

A fellow hiker we met on one of the reserve’s numerous trails told us Point Lobos reminded her of the movie Avatar. Indeed, this nature sanctuary does feel otherworldly with its orange colored moss, twisted trees, flower festooned boulders, and wealth of animals.

Point Lobos Reserve flowers near Carmel, California
Point Lobos Reserve flowers (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

We spied sea lions lazing on a beach, hundreds (if not thousands) of birds, and a rather outgoing mama doe and her fawn. Lucky visitors can often spy sea otters here too, but we were not among them. To get a better view of the area’s animal residents, bring binoculars or give your car keys to the information center to borrow a pair.

Fawn at Point Lobos State Reserve
Fawn at Point Lobos State Reserve (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

6. Enjoy intimate dining.

Restaurants vary from homey to upscale, but California casual attire is de rigueur. Space is scarce in Carmel so be prepared to get cozy with your fellow diners.

Katy’s Place

You can’t beat Katy’s Place for breakfast or brunch, with its huge plates of made-from-scratch comfort food including 17 varieties of eggs Benedict.

Irish Benedict made with corned beef hash at Katy's Place in Carmel, California
Irish Benedict made with corned beef hash at Katy’s Place (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)


With its darling garden setting, PortaBella makes a lovely spot for lunch or dinner. Their Roasted Corn and Crab Bisque is a must taste!


For a romantic fireside meal, Fandango is worth the short drive from Carmel-by-the-Sea to Pacific Grove to dine on dishes like their signature Osso Buco or local sautéed Sand Dabs. I highly recommend the Petite Filet Mignon served with green peppercorn and cognac sauce or the Scampi Prawns at this Mediterranean restaurant.


For a fun dining experience, choose Spanish tapas served in Mundaka‘s creative space with foreign films silently projected on a wall.

Pacific’s Edge Restaurant

Be sure to make dinner reservations for a splurge-worthy meal at Pacific’s Edge Restaurant at Hyatt Carmel Highlands. The knock-your-socks-off views, incredible service and impeccable cuisine will not disappoint. If this place doesn’t put you in the mood for romance, I don’t know what will.

Couple on a romantic date at the Pacific's Edge Restaurant at Hyatt Carmel Highlands
The two of us at Pacific’s Edge Restaurant at Hyatt Carmel Highlands (Photo credit: Travel Mamas)

7. Stay somewhere romantic in Carmel.

To get the most out of your Carmel romantic getaway, I recommend staying at least four or five nights in the area.

Hyatt Carmel Highlands

Spend a couple of nights at the luxurious, yet woodsy Hyatt Carmel Highlands, about a 12-minute drive from Carmel-by-the-Sea. The rooms are not large, but the views sure are. Our room had two balconies, one with a view of the pool, the other of the ocean and Point Lobos State Reserve in the distance.

Hyatt Carmel Highlands pool and incredible ocean views
Hyatt Carmel Highlands pool and incredible ocean views (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

Hofsas House Hotel

You should definitely spend a few nights at the Bavarian-themed Hofsas House Hotel in Carmel-by-the-Sea, easily within walking distance of the village-like downtown. If the weather allows, then make your way down to the nearby beach for swimming or nighttime s’mores by the sea. Spend a bit more for an in-room fireplace; we visited in summer and made use of ours every day.

The Hofsas House in Carmel-by-the-Sea
The Hofsas House in Carmel-by-the-Sea (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

Why Carmel?

I love my husband. But we sometimes drive each other bananas during our normal lives. We bicker about whose turn it is to drive the kids to school, whether to leave the butter out on the counter or store it in the fridge, and other little everyday annoyances. It can be easy to forget that we chose each other, long before we had kids. When we escape for a few days without our offspring, however, we don’t argue. At all. Ever. About anything. We hold hands, talk and really listen. We are happy to compromise to make the other person happy.

Although we have gone on many romantic getaways over the years, this trip to Carmel was something special. It’s such a peaceful place that’s immersed in natural beauty, it would be hard to come away from here without feeling more connected. So now when someone asks me about Carmel, I sigh dreamily, remembering all the romantic things we experienced here together, and say, “Ohhh, I looove Carmel.”

Romantic Big Sur view near Carmel, California
Romantic Big Sur view near Carmel (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

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Point Lobos State Reserve view
Point Lobos State Reserve view (Photo credit: Colleen Lanin)

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Romantic Things to Do in Carmel California

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A Note from The Travel Mama: Hofsas House and Hyatt Carmel Highlands hosted a portion of our stay. We also received some of our meals and our Carmel Wine Walk passport free of charge. I did not receive any other compensation related this story. All opinions are mine, as always.

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